Not to be real is maybe a need

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Hola everyone!
This is the first time i am writing a blog without mentioning my shaiyari, quite different na, but you know what i have always tried to reach out to everyone in the form of my shaiyrai or poetry writeup.

I Am here to talk about something i have felt so hard, its quite difficult to be real everytime, being not real doesnt mean to be fake, but yes to hide everything that we feel because the world can use our own words to ruin us. We share our feelings with someone assuming them to be ours and then we get full naked about our life, about our thoughts, but you know what, that should not happen, because we never know when our words will be slapped on our own face, because there is no one in the world other than our parents who could really accept who we are. 
If we talk about teenage or youth period of our life, we tend to share our feelings thoughts with someone of opposite gender dont know why that happens but that is truth maybe a need of everyone.
We share ourselves with them but suddenly one off day we hear those same words from that person telling us that you are only at fault that's why that might have happen to you, our own sharing becomes a slap on our own face. So we dont have to be always 100% open to anyone because some thoughts are such that we avoid sharing with our parents.
This journey completes and soon every girl enters a life of being married, now there we find someone who is permanent in our life so we might think to be open about anything and everything but you know what there also a time comes when our own said words become a trouble for us, they are thrown in such a manner on our face that it becomes really difficult to be who you are because we have a society which accepts a word 'gussa' of a male person but when it comes to females, they aren't supoose to have anger, they shouldn't suppose to show it.
I know my words might look like old school thoughts but somewhere they are still present and that hurts badly that in this life there is no point we can be really who we are, we cannot show exactly what we feel.....to be so naked to anyone we should first identify and that identification takes our whole life.
For a girl to be real, we need to be soo called besharam where we could show our attitude because showing who we are is always termed as to be "attitude vali" and a girl with attitude vali will be called besharam in the society.
Now we have to decide we should care about society, family or be who we are.
But you know what we lose when it comes to FAMILY.
So there is no way out to be 100%real.
Zindagi bhi di or sachai bhi sikhai,
Sunna sikhaya hota har kisi ko,
To shayd zindagi vyarth na lagti kisi kisi ko. 

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