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  Namaste! You must be thinking what has happened to my greeting way, from hello holla to Namaste? So let me tell you the reason behind it, thats my workplace where we greet one another by saying Namaste and to be honest I have adapted it in my routine now.  Starting with the fact that sometimes we think so much that we end up saying nothing because it’s difficult to comprehend WHAT are we exactly upto and WHY! Every step we take in our life leads to something that we are going to suffer as this is what we are meant for. We get what we give. But it takes years for us to actually believe it. When we are connected to someone in a relationship be it friends, partner, parents, colleagues, etc, we end up getting confused why is this happening that things are not aligned in our way and we are the ones who are compromising each day to make it a better place to live. It’s not the real story, when we assume the fact that we are compromising actually we are going situational yo everythi...

My child is unique. For a parent and a teacher each child is different and unique. They try their best to make them understand the same things. Yet one child does it easily while the other faces some difficulty in doing so, which is OKAY. Can’t we just normalise it and accept? Why do we force a child to do something that he is not able to do because he is unique and different in his/her own way. Let’s give them the space they want, because in the growing scenario the ball lies always in other person’s court. In short it is the fault of the person on the other side. Forcing children will not help them learn instead create a negative mindset in them. The true example we can see our ourselves, children committing actions which they should not because they cannot take things where they are said to be wrong. We ourselves have created this environment for them. Now it’s us who can give them the space to live like they want and not be one from the crowd.  The time is not that we can force...

Holla Folks ! Hope you are doing fine.  How dramatic it is to get only that thing which is quite not possible to procure in real life. In this busy schedule we barely get anytime to think about what we want and to the cherry on top we end up thinking of something that we cannot have. A married person may ponder to have back his bachelorette life, an old couple May contemporary to have their far gone children to be back in their own country, a mother who cannot afford to get what her children want me see her daughter shriek out for the beautiful doll her friend has, a broken heart may want to have her love back in any form and the list goes on.  We humans have the tendency to muse about one thing that we cannot have and the urge to get it grows with time. I believe it is okay, to not have had everything is okay. We live our entire life thinking about ways to get that and fanaticise about WHAT IF I HAD that. What made me write so is maybe not directly connect to what I want but ...

हम बैठे ओढ़ रजाई को, फरमाइश कई करते है, माँ उठ जाती झट से बिन हिचकिचाए, क्या उसे ठंड नहीं लगती है? सुनो यह लादो, सुनो वो लादो, पापा की भी सब करती है, बिन बोले ठंड बहुत है आज, क्या उसे ठंड नहीं लगती है? जहां दिन में हाथ पानी से बचाए, बस बिस्तर पर पड़े रहते है, वहीं दूसरी ओर ना रसोई में उसी पानी बर्तन भी धोया करती है क्या सच में उसे ठंड नही लगती है? भाई बोले तू ले आ, मैं बोली तू खुद उठ जा, इस कहते कहते वो सब हमें ला देती है, शायद सच में उसे ठंड नही लगती है। लगे अपने कामों हम चिड़चिड़े हो जाते है, नाज़ नखरे भी सारे उठाती, ठंड तो उसे भी लगती ही है, पर पक्का परिवार के लिए वह सब भूल जाती है, देख कर बच्चो को अपने, एक पैर पर भी खड़ी हो जाती है। मानो माँ को भी ठंड आवश्य लगती है।

गुनाह चाहे जो भी हो गलती मेरी ही होगी, यहां ' मेरी ' हर वो औरत है फिर वो बहन हो, बेटी हो, बीवी हो, मां हो या बहू हो। ज़रा नमक तेज़ हो जाए, या बे टाइम लाइट चली जाए, गलती मेरी ही होगी। कपड़े का रंग फीका पड़ जाए, या मिट्टी ज़रा सी कहीं रह जाए, गलती मेरी ही होगी। तुम बता दो किसी को कुछ तो सही है, मैं बता दूं कुछ ऐसा ही, तो गलती मेरी ही होगी। टीवी का केबल ना आ रहा हो, या बाजार जाओ कुछ मिले नही, तो भी गलती तो मेरी ही रही होगी। सर्दियों में पानी गरम नही हुआ, या शर्ट का कोई बटन टूट जाए, गलती तो मेरी ही होगी। अपने जज़्बात बताओ तो शेयरिंग होती है, हम बताए तो शिकायत बन जाती है, इसमें भी कहीं तो गलती मेरी ही होगी। " कभी यह सब्जी भी बनाया करो " कहकर, अगले दिन टिफिन में वो सब्जी देख कर, घर लौट कर बोलना आज ही क्यों बना दी, इसमें भी गलती मेरी ही रही होगी। इसमें भी गलती मेरी ही रही होगी।।  - दिशा मदान

We feel that the person who cries at this adult age is emotionally weak. But did we ever try to find out the reason behind the cry. Who really wants to make fun of himself/herself when we know that the society laughs when we cry. If we have something kept for so long in our mind we tend to either burst it out by shouting or the ones who cannot express themselves tend to cry out loud But trust me crying out loud is okay. No one might understand your pain, but explaining them is even more senseless. No one heal the way we can heal ourselves, giving yourself the motivation to move on without worrying and crying about what happened. I even myself sometimes feel to have a shoulder to cry, but trust me the reality is no shoulder is permanently ours except our own hands to wipe our tears, to evade our sorrows, to lighten our mind, to open our brain and to help think positive. Pain cannot always be physical in nature, but psychology says emotional pain is more dangerous because no one can see ...